GIRL ITS YOU: Fight Fear, Reclaim Power, Take Action
Chapter One
Tell Fear To Pull Up
You have to look fear in the face and tell her that you aren’t afraid of her. She doesn’t scare you because you have fought bigger things in your life. What if I told you that fear wasn’t the problem in your life but it was YOU. That you were holding yourself back from all of the things that you wanted to do in life. It's not about how you feel when you get stuck, when things don’t go as planned or when you get rejected. It's about how you react to fear when it approaches you.
Didn’t your mama teach you, if someone hits you, you hit they asses back? You have to get gangster when it comes to fear. You have to hang her by her bundles and drag her. Get real hood with it. Take off your jewelry, Vaseline your face, put on your sneakers and pull up like you're about to beat a hoe up. If you have to bring a weapon(Your bible) then use it sis. Get crazy with fear because fear will get crazy with you. Have you ever been so consumed with fear that you don’t do the very thing that you said you were going to do? I know you have because we have all been beat up by her a couple of times. Aren't you tired of getting jumped by fear and all her homegirls?
Fear comes in many forms, forms that we don’t usually catch right away, the ones we see but choose to ignore, the ones that keep us in bondage even when we know that ain't the truth, and then she likes to come up whenever she feels like it. Just like your period. Always ruining a good time. It doesn’t matter what you choose in life, how you move, or even what you think. Fear will always be present. Fear will always have a bus pass. She will always buy a front row ticket to the show, she even pays extra for a backstage pass. She will always make you think you can’t do what God already told you, you can do. It doesn’t matter where you are in your business, purpose, love life, and career you will always have to fight fear. So if I was you, I’d keep a pair of boxing gloves in your trunk. Maybe even a taser, get her on the ground for a quick minute so you can catch your breath because before you know it, she'll be right on that tail again.
Before we move on , I want you to make a decision that whenever fear decides to “Pull Up” that you don’t back down. I want you to have that same energy with fear. Get face to face with her and tell her you aren’t afraid of her. That she doesn’t have control over your life. You won’t let her get inside of your head. You won’t give her access to you anymore. And realistically she will always get access, because she knows what to do to get you on the ground. But every time she shows up, you will feel her out, you won’t let her knock you out. She will get in some hits but you will always be swinging. You won’t let up, you won’t quit, you won’t let a bloody nose stop you, you will feed off her energy. You keep going, you keep smiling, people will be cheering and you will win the battle. You might have to get in the ring a few rounds but you keep knocking her out every chance. Remember fear will always get up but that doesn’t mean you won’t win, this just means you have to remember the play. Get your head in the game. For every hit, you hit harder. You have a group of people cheering for you in the crowd, your homegirls are rooting for you. Your business is rooting for you, your career is rooting for you. So keep fighting even when it gets hard, you got this babygirl. I’m rooting for you.
Being a twenty-two year old corporate lay off I thought my life was over. I started a good paying job that I loved, that was easy to do, I could eat on the job, listen to music and gossip through email. Sounds like a good time to me. I was living the life and I knew I was going to be set for a lifetime. Until I wasn’t. I was laid off with only one week to find a new job. I was devastated and I didn’t know what to do. Someone should have prepared me for this. Why wasn’t it taught that your job could be yours one day and then taken away the next. Why didn’t our high school guidance counselors tell us about this, they told us what schools to apply to, how to get out of situations and high school drama but they didn't think telling us that our jobs could potentially get rid of us because they didn’t know how to run their business could potentially be in our cards. Can someone please create a free webinar on this, I think college students need to be prepared for this. It's valuable information that people need to talk about. I give you permission to create the webinar and get your coins.
At this point in my life I didn’t know fear was holding my hand like we were best friends trying to avoid the guys at the gas station pretending we were together. She held onto me while i held onto her but the difference here is that I never let her hand go once we got back to the car. I kept holding her hand, there was comfort in holding the hand of something that didn't actually want to protect me. I wasn't aware of the effects fear would have on my life. I just knew it felt better than holding onto the pain I felt after losing my job. I was in a bunch of debt, trying to save for a car, and needed to pay for driving lessons because I had a fear of driving. As you can see there was fear the whole time. She didn’t just happen to come sit next to me once I lost my job, she was sitting in the front row watching all of this take place and when it was the perfect time for her to actually be seen, she kept a low profile. I hate that about her! She knows just when to stir the pot, so that when things in your life start to hit the fan she can be the one who impacts your life. Not in a good way but in the way that we don’t ever want to be in.
Fear pulls up when she sees your bedroom lights on. She knows you're busy working on your craft, writing your book, building your business, studying for finals and falling in love with the man you ain't never thought you would fall for. She’s outside watching you, carefully taking notes, plotting against you so that she will be ready to make her move. She’s very strategic. She doesn’t do anything without a plan. Honestly she’s smart as hell. We should start taking notes from her.
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Excerpt from my recent book releasing 2021.